A Passionate Path to Love and Sex That Lasts.
Struggle Less. Love More
You don't have to prove you're lovable.
You don't have to "get it right."
You get to be loved for who you truly are.
About the Book
What if passion doesn’t come from trying harder—but from being more honest?
Honest Sex is for those tired of surface-level intimacy and longing for something deeper. Whether you’re single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, this book will show you how to create and reignite connection—not by performing or pleasing, but by revealing who you truly are.
Through stories, insights, and simple yet powerful practices, you’ll learn to speak your truth, navigate vulnerability, and create emotional and erotic intimacy that lasts. This isn’t about fixing yourself—it’s about freeing yourself to love, be loved, and feel fully alive.
Who It’s For
This book is for you if…
If you've been through heartbreak, long-term relationships, or years of disappointing dates, you know there has to be more to love and sex than what you’ve experienced. You’re not looking for quick fixes—you want connection that’s real, soulful, and deeply satisfying.
Whether you’re single, dating, or partnered, Honest Sex will help you reconnect to yourself and redefine intimacy as something rooted in truth, respect, and desire—not performance or outdated roles.
What You’ll Learn
Inside Honest Sex, you’ll discover…
Why emotional intimacy and erotic energy are not separate—and how to bridge the gap between the two
How to talk about your needs, boundaries, and desires in a way that builds closeness instead of conflict
What blocks your sexual aliveness—and how to unlock it with presence, honesty, and ease
How to shift from sexual pressure to sexual connection
The role of vulnerability in attraction (and why it’s more powerful than trying to be “cool” or “together”)
A framework for rebuilding trust and intimacy after disconnection, betrayal, or years of shutdown
Why sex is often a mirror for the emotional dynamic in your relationship—and how to use that mirror to heal, deepen, and expand
This book isn't about getting a date or a partner to do something different. It’s about creating the conditions where both of you want to meet each other more fully—because the foundation is built on truth, not performance.
From the Author
Why I Wrote This Book
After 20 years of coaching singles and couples, I saw a clear pattern: people crave more connection, more turn-on, more truth—but they don’t know how to ask for it, or they fear it's too much. I watched singles settle, couples disconnect, and so many silently give up on the intimacy they truly wanted.
Honest Sex is my response. Not a rigid how-to, but an invitation to a new kind of intimacy—one rooted in respect, emotional presence, erotic depth, and courageous honesty. Not the kind of truth that wounds, but the kind that opens hearts and keeps love alive over time.
Praise for Honest Sex
What Readers Are Saying
Shana James is like your best friend, blended with the Dalai Lama and Dr. Ruth. Honest Sex is warm, wise and funny. It will help you create not only the sex life you want, but the rich relationships you need for true happiness.
From my thirty-five years as a therapist, I can say Shana James is the real deal. Her understanding of relational struggles and the potential for inspiring human connection, along with her willingness to practice what she preaches, makes her a trusted guide.
As a marriage and family therapist for more than fifty years, this is the book I've been waiting my whole career to give to my clients. I'll be telling everyone I know to buy three copies—one for yourself, one for your partner, and one for the friend who has been waiting for honest sex all their lives.
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