You’re Not Too Late.
You’re Right on Time.
If you’re a successful, soulful woman over 40 who still believes in love—
but feels exhausted by dating or heartbroken by the past—I see you.
This work is for you.
Shana’s Story
Hi, I’m Shana.
And I know what it’s like to want more from love.
At 35, newly divorced, I started dating again—this time with a daughter, a business, and a soul that had grown wiser (but more cautious).
I wasn’t interested in playing games, proving my worth, or chasing emotionally unavailable men. I wanted something real.
And I knew I wasn’t alone.
After 20 years as a dating and relationship coach—and 10 of those coaching men—I’ve seen firsthand what keeps love from thriving. I’ve witnessed what makes men open up... and what shuts them down. I’ve helped thousands of people create love that’s deeper, more honest, and more aligned than anything they’ve ever experienced.
Now, I help women like you call in love that feels emotionally safe, deeply connected, and mutually supportive—without settling, self-abandoning, or pretending to be “cool” with less than you deserve.
What I Believe
Real love is built on truth, not performance.
And dating after 40 doesn’t have to feel like a second job.
I don’t teach you how to be more lovable.
I show you how to be more you—and how to bring that woman into relationships with confidence, clarity, and power.
Here’s what I believe about love after 40:
💗 It’s not too late (and you’re not too much).
💡 You don’t have to settle or compromise who you are.
✨ You deserve to be cherished, not just chosen.
🌿 Vulnerability is your superpower—not your weakness.
🧠 Emotional availability isn’t a unicorn trait—it just requires a new lens.
You haven’t missed your chance.
You’re just being called to love in a new way.
Why This Is Different
20 Years. Thousands of Clients.
And a Whole Lot of Insight Into Men.
In addition to coaching women, I’ve spent 20 years coaching men on their love lives — helping them get honest, emotionally available, and ready for real love.
That means I understand how men think, what they fear, and what inspires them to show up fully.
And it’s why I created the Clark Kent Dating Method™—a new dating paradigm that helps women stop chasing unavailable “Superman” types and start recognizing the men who lead with heart.
My Approach
My Work Is Deep—but It’s Not Heavy.
My background is rooted in psychology, spiritual practice, and relational intelligence.
But my sessions feel like sitting down with someone who gets you, challenges you gently, and makes you feel seen.
Together, we’ll work on:
Releasing old patterns that block intimacy
Attracting men who are emotionally present and ready to commit
Navigating the fear of vulnerability or being “too much”
Creating connection without abandoning yourself
This is where self-love meets soulmate energy.
This is dating with both heart and boundaries.
This is your time.
My Credentials (for the curious!)
Master’s in Psychology
Certified in DISC Communication & Positive Intelligence
TEDx Speaker: What 1000 Men’s Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women
Author of Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deepen Connection and Keep Relationships Alive
Host of the Practicing Love Podcast
20 years of coaching experience
Client Love
Real Results from Real Women
"I feel like I've progressed 20 years in a few weeks. I've never felt so good about myself, or so secure. A lot of my worries are gone and I know I can deal with anything that comes my way.
Through our work a whole new world opened up. I see new possibilities in my life – with love, with career, and everything I want to achieve. I got in touch with my essence and I started a great relationship. I love the way I feel at this moment."
- J
"Before I was introduced to Shana, I felt like everything around me was meaningless. I was angry, sad and confused.
I was heading toward a divorce and the worst year of my life. With Shana’s help, I was able to meet a wonderful partner who I’ve been happier with than ever. This year is off to a fantastic start and I now predict this to be the best year of my life.”
-P
Want to go deeper right now? These are two great places to begin:
Book a private session to clarify what’s blocking love—and how to shift it
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