Struggling with Love, Sex or Dating after 40?
Don’t give up — You Can Have the Most Connected, Passionate Love and Sex of Your Life (Starting now).
It’s not your fault no one handed you a map to find or create real, lasting love. With a few simple shifts, you can open the door to intimacy your younger self couldn’t even imagine — where you feel understood, supported, desired, and deeply fulfilled.
Why Love and Sex Often Feel Harder After 40
By midlife, most of us carry some heartbreak, disappointment, or regret. You've likely built a life, career, and family, and life Is full! But you may have lost touch with your desire, truth, or aliveness. Or the fact that your body is changing may make it harder to feel good about yourself, even with all the success you've had.
Whether you...
Are in a long-term relationship with little intimacy or spark
Feel discouraged by dating and don't know how to find emotionally available, conscious partners
Are healing from a divorce or heartbreak
Have never felt truly seen, or safe to be yourself
Have given so much that you don’t even know what you want anymore
...There is a path to real, fulfilling love. You’re not alone. And it’s not too late!
The Promise of Conscious Love After 40
The best relationships after 40 are rooted in emotional honesty, not perfection. You can have mutual growth and support, a deeper connection and a more satisfying sex life that nourishes your body, heart, and soul.
This stage of life calls for something more — where you are met, cherished, and deeply understood, and where you have a partner you can grow with, and create love that lasts.
You can:
Feel more confident, relaxed, and supported, in everything from conversations to sex
Have a love and sex life that gets richer and more exciting over time -- for as long as you live
Have the freedom to be yourself in a way that brings someone closer to you -- no masks, facades, or trying to be “perfect” or “lovable”
Know and ask for what you want, without the worry of being judged or offending someone
Be free of painful patterns and draining conflicts, and instead feel understood, appreciated, and desired
This stage of life calls for something more, where you are met, cherished, and deeply seen, where you have a partner you can grow with, not someone who plays outdated relationship roles.
Ready to explore what love and sex after 40 can truly be?
Choose the path that’s right for you
FOR WOMEN
Have love and connection without losing yourself, and feel cherished and supported
FOR MEN
Have the love and sex you want, with more confidence and less struggle
FOR DATING
Find the best love and sex of your life after 40
A client who was in a relationship said:
“Before Shana, I was struggling to be honest about my real needs and desires. I was giving more than I was getting in return. Shana helped me step into my power and communicate more boldly.
My girlfriend and I deepened our love and understanding. We are now happily married. With my work, I got a promotion and two raises in the same year I worked with Shana.”
— Ray
A client who was single said:
“People started approaching me, out of the blue. I wasn't doing anything different. It's like I became magnetic.”
— Denise
Introducing Your Love Coach…
Hi, I’m Shana
For as long as I can remember I wanted to understand love and relationships. Growing up I was so uninspired by the relationships around me that I made a vow to do it differently.
I got my Masters in Psychology, and after almost a decade of personal growth work I got married. I was sure I knew what it took to make it.
When we didn’t make it, it was incredibly humbling and heartbreaking. But it also catalyzed the biggest growth of my life. I had a chance to figure out how to be true to myself, rather than trying to make everyone else happy.
In the 20 years I’ve coached people on their love lives, I’ve also used mine to learn to love as best I can, and I bring all of my learnings to my clients.
I now understand what creates disconnection and distrust in relationships, and how to build trust and keep passion alive. It feels like a huge honor to help people find and keep love alive, with more ease and self-love.
I specialize in Love Coaching in midlife, because of the extra challenges we face, like career and life transitions, parenting and changing hormones.
“I help you discover your authentic super powers, so you can have the love life you want with less stress and more ease.
As a translator between men and women, I make communicating easier, so attraction and trust can build.”
- Shana James
Want to go deeper right now? These are two great places to begin:
Find out what keeps you from having the best love and sex of your life
Find out what blocks you from finding love
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